Embracing Your Wildness
As small children, we were all wild. Not unlike the wolf pup in the den, we ran when we felt like it, sniffed or tasted things to see what they were, yelled when the mood struck us and danced at the drop of a hat. We loved to dig in the earth,...

Care And Maintenance Of The Human Hard Drive
The human brain is very much like a hard drive. If you stop to think of it, they are both filled with billions of tiny bits of information, stored in the memory cells just waiting to be accessed. They both use electrical energy to find those bits...

Magic of Goal Manifestation
What goals do you have for your life? If you have goals, is it just in your head? Or do you have a methodology to manifest them? A systematic process to think of anything you want, and ultimately acquire it. Sounds like magic, doesn’t it? That is...

Breaking Your Relationship Pattern, Part 3
Do you want to put to rest the people and situations from your past so they do not interfere with your current and future relationships? I bet you said yes. Who doesn't have something in their past they want to put to rest? Then let's talk about...

Breaking Your Relationship Pattern, Part 2
The first step toward being able to attract and create your ideal relationship is to clear the way for it by eliminating baggage from your past. This baggage refers to any resentments, hurts, or fears you have toward anyone who either was a role...

Breaking Your Relationship Pattern, Part 1
When you were little, you looked up to your parents. You imitated their mannerisms, words, and actions as you learned about life by watching them. This applies to relationships as well - you leaned about relationships by watching them. Not all you...

Ten Benefits of Having a Relationship Coach
As a Master Certified Relationship Coach, I work with singles to help them attract a great match and with couples to help put their relationships back on track. I hear great feedback from my clients about the value of coaching. I think everyone can...

Manage Your Expectations ... and raise the bar on your quality of life..
When I was a newbie in 'the game of life,' I wanted to succeed beyond my wildest dreams. I wanted to make it big and take on the world, all at once. My expectations were so high that not even Jack could reach them on his beanstalk. However, over...

What Should You Be Committed To?
There are many dynamics that go into making a great team. Dynamics such as chemistry, talent, unity, and the list could go on and on. However, there is one dynamic that many teams, businesses, and leaders often overlook. That dynamic is commitment....

Bad Blood
Direct Answers - Column for the week of August 26, 2002 Recently my father passed away. My problem is he never filed a will through the court, but he did have a holographic will, which is an unwitnessed, handwritten will. That will popped out of...

An Unquenched Thirst
Direct Answers - Column for the week of September 9, 2002 I'm engaged to a wonderful, warm and loving man whom I've been with for four years. We have always had mismatched libido. I would prefer to have sex nearly every day, but he would choose...

Nine Lives
Direct Answers - Column for the week of September 2, 2002 My husband of four years has been arrested for the fourth time for hurting me. This time he strangled me. I always go back with him. He is in jail now with no money to post for his own bail....

Be Your Own Best Friend
What does being a "best friend" mean to you? I imagine that just about everyone is or has been a best friend to someone in their lives. I encourage you to take some time and examine what being someone's best friend really means. Usually, a best...

Product Testing
Direct Answers - Column for the week of June 24, 2002 I suppose there are worse problems than having two men who want to share their life with me. However, it is a genuine problem. I do need advice on sorting this all out. My former husband and I...

Two Drops Of Water
Direct Answers - Column for the week of June 17, 2002 My problem is that I am falling in love. My friend and I are both 23. He lives in the United States, seven hours away from where I live in Canada. Just yesterday I came back from seeing him...

A Teller Of Tales
Direct Answers - Column for the week of June 10, 2002 I told my daughter I didn't think my daughter-in-law paid enough attention to her oldest son, 8. He has attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, is on Ritalin, and lately has been kicking and...

Repeat Offender
Direct Answers - Column for the week of July 8, 2002 I am a 26-year-old escort, in the business on and off since I was 14. I have a tendency to get involved in very bad relationships. The men I go out with are usually abusive with substance abuse...

Buyer's Remorse
Direct Answers - Column for the week of July 29, 2002 A few months after my divorce I started seeing a friend of my ex-wife. She told me I really needed a person that would appreciate me. We had a great sex life, and she told me anytime was fine. I...

Worth Waiting For
Direct Answers - Column for the week of July 22, 2002 I am a 31-year-old virgin male. At times I feel sexually frustrated because I've never been intimate with a woman. The only experience I ever had was a nice French kiss in high school. I'm...

A Perverse Confidante
Direct Answers - Column for the week of July 15, 2002 Dad passed away years ago and Mom lives alone. She is still young and healthy, yet she always plays the victim. I am in my 30s and divorced. Our relationship has always been based on a maternal...

A Bit Of Turbulence
Direct Answers - Column for the week of July 1, 2002 I'm a 26-year-old flight attendant engaged to be married in 10 weeks. Our wedding reception was to be held in a marquee in my in-laws' garden. On Saturday night my future mother-in-law flipped...

Keep Your Goals Clearly In Mind
Keep Your Goals Fresh In Your Mind - Most of us have goals, the question is how many of us actually follow-up and work those goals. What I mean is going a step further then actually recording your goals, with that said the question is how do we...

The Rat Race and Smiling Over Spilt Coffee
As if choreographed and rehearsed the night before, one lays witness to the rumble of heels, a sea of italian-crafted, waxed, buffed and protected from any Act of God footwear, tap-tap-tapping down the staircase: the mesmerizing beat of the damned....

A Plausible Defense
Direct Answers - Column for the week of August 5, 2002 I just looked at your website and read "Wanting To Be Caught," and I truly think that is awful advice! You said and I quote, "You can't act as if you had no wish to end the marriage when you...

For Old Time's Sake
Direct Answers - Column for the week of August 19, 2002 I am currently going through a divorce, and we've been negotiating the terms of the settlement for a year and a half without agreement. I have started a relationship with another woman, but...