A Look In The Mirror
That's all it takes to change the world. Take a long hard look in the mirror and really notice who you are. We're all screaming for peace right now - not just world peace - but peace in our cities, in our workplaces, in our homes and in our minds....

Getting Over Your Fear Of Success
The fear of success is more common than some might realize. Just the thought of 'What it would be like to...' is enough to set some people off. One might start talking about how he could never be successful. Well if he keeps saying things like that...

It's The Ride That Counts
Having goals is a good thing. It means that you're willing to take the first step to achieving those goals. When you write down your goals, articulate them on paper, that's the first step to achieving them. But what about the second step, the...

This Emotion Is As Helpful As Ali-Baba And His Forty Thieves!
Are you afraid of your own best ideas? Do you ever have that cold chill run up your spine just about the time you feel you're ready to take hold of that golden opportunity that comes once in a lifetime? Well guess what? I been there, done that, and...

I Know I Can, I Know I Can
I'm sure most of you remember the children's book about The Little Train That Could. I have to admit that at my age, I don't remember the exact title or exactly how the story goes, but I don't recall the idea in the story. Basically, if you think...

I Give Up!....... How to NOT Say Those Words!
Boy, I tell you....it seems the world is just going crazy these days! The economy is going haywire, the war is started, and things just seem to be out of control! Most of us know how hard it is to keep our business going with all the work and time...

Mountain Climbing Over Molehills
Someone has said that the greatest cause of ulcers is mountain-climbing over mole-hills! Is that the way you get your exercise? Many folks allow themselves to be thrown off course by minor or imaginary threats. Often they interpret these as...

Speak Up!
Ever been in a meeting with something important to say and remained silent? You may have felt the flush of the good idea and the rising adrenalin. You may have moved to the front of your seat and readied your body to speak...and then didn't. What...

Would You Rather Be Wealthy?
Would you rather be wealthy or poverty-stricken? Not a difficult question to answer, is it? How do you think your thoughts impact on your financial state? Just as the earth contains in its depths great riches--oil, diamonds, gold, uranium,...

A New Beginning With The People At Work
There's a big opportunity here! The holidays bring a change in spirit in most folks. Even though they may be more tired than usual from all the demands of the season, they are filled with holiday cheer. Key time to heal relationships at work! Do...

Interview Quicksand
How will you respond when you’re asked the following two questions? 1.What type of boss do you like to work for? 2.What are the pros and cons about your present employer? -March 2003 You scan the career section. Then you see it; your dream job....

Building the bond in your relationship.
A bond (relationship wise) is when two people have a connection. Being attracted to each other and sharing common values and interests brought the two of you together as a couple, but the bond has not been set completely. Besides the fact that you...

Long Odds
Direct Answers - Column for the week of March 31, 2003 I don't drive and have health problems. I have a friend who runs an under-the-table errand service. She is one of my closest friends so I rely on her. I always give her sufficient money for...

All Talk And No Action; So Let It Be Written; So Let It Be Done!
It is so important to know how to motivate ourselves in an effective manner and in a desirable direction. Throughout life we continually struggle between the dual forces of what we say and what we do. So, I ask you, what would you pay for a personal...

Coping With Having a Small Penis
If I meet an angry man, somebody who is truly angry without a reason, I often wonder if the cause might be something as simple as small penis size. I off course talk from experience of growing up with a tiny (as I discuss in my small penis size...

How To Condition Your Mind For Success
Your mindset is a strong factor in achieving any type of success. By creating S-M-A-R-T goals for yourself you can condition your mind to achieve whatever it is you desire. S- Specific M- Measurable A- Achieved R- Reasonable T- Time Specific - Be...

Are You a Self-Saboteur?
Take this questionnaire to get clear on what you may be doing to undermine your own success and happiness in life. An explanation of your score awaits at the end. 1. When someone offers help you usually answer no without even thinking consider...

A Recovering Rager's Creed
A rager, or rageaholic, is a person who is addicted to the expression of anger. While many people feel better when they "let it all out" a rageaholic should totally and completely abstain from expressing their anger. If anger or rage is a...

What You Can Do As A Non-Raging Mate To Either Fix The Relationship Or..
(The following is an actual email conversation between Newton Hightower, Director of The Center for Anger Resolution, Inc., and "Betty" the girlfriend of a rageaholic.) Betty: I am a 35-year-old single woman who has been dating a man for three...

Following Through
Direct Answers - Column for the week of March 24, 2003 My final divorce papers sit in front of me waiting for my signature. In fact, they've been sitting on my desk for five days now. It took me two days to even open the envelope and another full...

"Pretend Interest" and Apathy... What To Do About Them!
According to Merriam-Webster's dictionary "apathy is defined as the following: lack of emotion; lack of interest; indifference". Wow, that's pretty depressing. However, look around you. Don't many of you work with people with this attitude. I don't,...

Absence Makes The Fear Go Yonder!
Emotions are controlled by a combination of reason and action. Man is the only member of the animal kingdom that can control the emotions he experiences on a day to day basis. But, in the negative antagonistic environment we live in, you will need a...

Changing Course
Direct Answers - Column for the week of March 17, 2003 I'm at my wit's end. My wife of 20 years is leaving me. She said she is sick of me always talking at her. She says she doesn't care about money or anything else as long as she can get away...

Clutter-Clearing and Your Authentic Self
Have you ever felt so discouraged, your life so out-of-control, the universe so unresponsive to your needs and desires, that you couldn't help it: you just had to clean up? By paying attention to these impulses we recognize the deep connection...

Need A Solution For Trouble? Try This Breath Of Fresh Air!
I just heard the story of a man who hired a plumber to restore an old farmhouse. After he had finished a rough first day on the job he realized he had a flat tire which made him lose an hour of work; then his electric drill quit, and then his truck...