After you have induced a state of hypnotic self-relaxation concentrateon your specific sexual problem, assuming you have one. Ask yourself a seriesof questions. In answering them during your self-analysis stage ofauto-hypnosis, try to develop some understanding of your particular sexualmaladjustment. You will surprise yourself as to how much self-insight you cangain in this way, which will enable you to find solution to your problem.

When a psychiatrists succeeds in getting his patient todevelop insight into his own problem (referred to as “insight therapy) he haspractically achieved half the cure. For example, if you are aware of having afaulty attitude about sex because of some negative beliefs or habits, tellyourself that you can and will develop a more positive attitude. If you areliving in the past, tormenting yourself with guilt feelings because of somepast sexual wrongdoing, accept the self hypnotic suggestion that you are goingto close the door to the past, forgive yourself and devote your efforts towardmaking better future sexual adjustments.

some of the questions to ask yourself:

Do I have guilt feelings about past sexual experience, whichis interfering with my ability to enjoy sexual relationship with my wife orhusband?

Is sexual disharmony the root cause of my marital unhappiness?

As a wife I am I assuming my sexual responsibility as awoman by not frustrating the sexual ego of my husband?

As a husband do I give my wife the love and tenderness sheneeds to make her more responsive sexually?

What can I do to bring about an improvement in my sexualrelationship with my husband or wife

Am I willing to consult a specialist for the remedy of asexual problem particularly when all efforts at self-help have failed?

Here are the 10 positive suggestions, men and women, which Irecommend that you repeat to yourself again –again –and again. The repetitionof an idea or thought conditions you to the successful acceptance andapplication of what you need and to believe. You will be rewarded with sex happiness- essential to good physical and emotional health.

Positive Suggestions for Women:

1.         I’m alwaysenjoying my sexual life and having complete sexual fulfillment with myhusband.

2.         I’m makingmy love relationship a reciprocal one, realizing that the mutual giving of loveis the secret of sex harmony.

3.         I’mconvinced that a happy sexual life is essential for a happy marriedlife

4.         I’m alwaysmaking my husband a sexually satisfied person

5.         I’mreminding myself that four-fifths of all divorces are caused by sexualincompatibility. With my happy love life, I’m convinced my marriage will lastforever.

Positive Suggestions for Men:

1.         I’mconvinced that attitude is all-important to understanding and correcting mysexual problem.

2.         I’m developingpositive attitude and feelings. And the more sex I have the more I enjoy it.

3.         I’m becomingmore and more sexually literate by reading a authoritative manuals, improve mylovemaking technique and increase my capacity for sex satisfaction

4.         I’m alwayspositively discussing sexual matters with my wife.

5.         I’mintelligent enough to seek competent professional help If I suffer from somedeep-seated sexual problem, which I cannot resolve myself,

Remind yourself that you are a better lover than you thinkyou are. Don’t be obsessed with the idea that you don’t have the ability tolove. Learn to experience the emotion of love within yourself. You will soondiscover that you will want to and can love someone else. Self love (the normaltype) should precede man woman love.