Anal sex, practiced properly, is as safe as any other kind of sex and it can be extremely pleasurable. The anus can be an intensely erogenous zone and the anus contains more nerve endings than any other part of the body except the clitoris. It's no wonder that so many people regularly enjoy anal sex.
Anal Eroticism "Anal eroticism" can range from simply stroking your anus or your partner's with a lubricated finger, to actually sliding some fingers inside your partner, to full anal intercourse. All these things are physically very pleasurable, and if you practice simple hygiene techniques, there's nothing repulsive about them. The anal taboo is very old, but there is no necessary medical reason for it if you know what you're doing. Make sure you've gone to the bathroom before playing. Some people wish to use an enema to make sure everything stays neat, although the use of an enema is uncommon. If your partner is not 100% familiar and safe you should by all means use a condom. Many couples use one for anal sex regardless of their knowledge of each other.
You should use plenty of water soluble lubrication when you try anal sex. Never use Vaseline or any other petroleum based lube. We recommend Ease (it has a spermacide that is believed to decrease HIV) or astrolube (although it tends to be a little light. We especially like a lubricant called WET. It seems to stay around for a while. Use LOTS of lubricant, it's clean! The more lube you use, the more comfortable you will be.
Preparation Your rectum can receive a large penis easily and fully, and this can be quite pleasurable, if you want it. And you must want it, before it can happen. That is, you must be at ease, in mind and body. The rectum is similar to a very elastic pipe with a set of muscular rings at the end, the anus. The anus acts as a plug, to stop things from going out, or let them in. It tightens and relaxes like purse strings on a bag, and is fairly strong.
This muscle is controlled by the mind, and emotions influence how tense it will be at any given time. Good fucking can't happen unless the anus is relaxed, and this may take some learning. Many of us are taught to be ashamed of our rear ends, of the things that happen there, and the sensations of this area. The anus can be an erotic place, most children experience pleasure in shitting, but many adults ignore these feelings, in their rush to get he act over with as little guilt as possible. The rear end becomes an ignored and mysterious place. The anus is usually held tight, and becomes the site of problems like hemorrhoids. Yet the feelings are still there. Awareness and conscious control of the anus can be learned, although this takes time to discover. Look at it as exploring something new, part of your own body.
Exploring Your Ass The first thing is, how do you feel about your anus and rectum? Are they a part of you, or do you emotionally push them away? If you feel bad about your ass, that it's a dirty place, this is where your explorations must begin.
Explore your anus, to discover how it feels and that it's not dirty, that you can touch it and not get hurt. You can do this in two ways: by yourself or with your partner. In exploring yourself you have control over you actions. Climb into a tub of hot water (or a shower or lay on your bed) and relax. Then with your fingertips explore your pussy and thighs, gliding around to feel what it's like. Then bend your legs and slide your fingers down between them, sliding them along the crack that runs from your pussy to your anus. Touch your anus very lightly with one finger. Then try with several fingers pushing down a little - how does it feel? If you like that, try masturbating while pressing several fingers on your ass.
, try masturbating while pressing several fingers on your ass.
