Well, let's see. What if you gave them a gift for a little get-away, such as a long weekend at a cottage somewhere or a short trip? In your situation it would of course have to include the kids. But it could still be something they'd enjoy. Just something different to do that would break the routine. You can also make a special occasion at home by serving him/her a candle light dinner after the kids are in bed. And I suppose you could give him/her something of an upgrade for the technology he/she is using for there video game, such as a bigger TV or a speedier computer.

Other than that I can't really come up with anything. Wait, here is another thought, back when you married him/her they must've done more with there life than play a video game all night. How about getting him/her something that would put them in touch with there past and maybe re-kindles there interest in an old hobby? You've got to be careful with this one though, they might take it as a sign of disapproval, so you'd have to be very picky in both choosing the gift and the way you present it to them.

If he/she wears cologne/perfume then you can get him/her that with a note attached telling them how much you care. Also, you could get him/her a silver chain or watch with the same note. Or a shirt or a gift card to some place. But the part telling them how you feel would be in the card you attach. Which should say something about how much you care about them and how much you have valued knowing them and how you hope that there will be many years where you guys will be a part of each other's lives?

Well let's see what about giving him/her like some equipment for weight training, like something he/she could do maybe at there house. Also it sounds like you guys have been through a lot together so you could make him/her a journal or photo album. Perhaps write a journal for your boyfriend/girlfriend. Put pictures of where you went together, make a page for all the obstacles you have crossed together, put songs, or little cute words you say to each other. You can even write an adventure story that included both of you and make up a very good ending (that might be really fun).

Another thing you could do is give him/her something simple, but give them many simple things, like maybe a gift certificate to there favorite store and put it in a huge box so it looks like a really big gift. Then fill up the box with his/her favorite candy and then watch them fish around for his/her gift, it's really fun and very memorable.

So here's my philosophy. You could either get them a really big gift like equipment for weight training, or something relating to golf or bowling or you could give them something more simple like a gift certificate, a watch, or a combination of those and spice it up by adding a little memory journal or making it cute by putting it in a big box with a bunch of candy. I tend to go for the combination of little things and the journal idea because it's much more meaningful and it's truly a gift that lasts and never gets old.

Oh and for other gift ideas you could buy them something they need for there house, an accessory for a computer, car, or whatever. You could take him/her to a concert or some sports event you know he/she would love to go to. Or you can take them on a shopping spree and have them pick out whatever they want.